Today we’re talking about tracking sex and periods. Fun, I know. But hear me out! It’s super important to be in tune with your body (whether you’re having sex or not!). Tracking your cycle can bring you peace of mind and alert you to any health issues. It also helps keep your man in the loop so he can in turn help you stay on top of taking birth control. If you’re not on birth control, tracking is super beneficial to keep you aware of your fertile days—which is good to know when you’re trying to get pregnant (and when you’re not trying!).
I didn’t know women tracked their cycles and sex until I started looking at birth control options. I started using an app to remind me to take my pills so that Aunt Flo didn’t show up as an uninvited attendee to our wedding.
Why should you track?
Well, scheduling things is very beneficial for your sanity—you’re talking to the queen of fly-by-the-seat-of-her-pants, so if I think it’s beneficial, I’m probably right…
Scheduling your cycle is helpful to know when you can safely wear white pants to a party. You can use a calendar (though I use an app) to track things and my cycle is pretty predictable with birth control. Plus, once you start tracking on an app, it will alert you when you’re due to start your period or when you are nearing your fertile days. A lot of the apps out there also allow you to add your partner so that he can be in the loop too (and maybe bring you some peanut butter M&M’s on the crampy days!). At this point in our lives Hubs and I have no desire to have children. So, keeping track of my period is an easy way for us to be extra careful if we have sex on my fertile days!
Phone apps can also alert you when you need to take your pills, change your ring (NuvaRing), or check your strings (IUD). Plus, if your periods become irregular, that can be a sign that something is up. Keeping track of your cycle helps you fill the doctor in on any concerns you may have.
Tracking your cycle can bring you peace of mind and alert you to any health issues.
Tracking helps our sex life!
If I’m grumpy and seemingly on edge all the time, I can look back and see the last time we had sex. If it’s been a while, I know what I’m doing that evening. Being the high-drive spouse, sometimes I feel like it’s been weeks and it has only been two days. Ha.
Plus, if I know my period is going to start, I’ll squeeze in a bang sesh. Whether we plan out a day or it happens later that afternoon, I look forward to it! Too often, I wait until Hubs initiates sex and then I remember it’s not on the front of his mind like it is mine. Tracking sex helps remind me to initiate sex when I want to, too! When I’m intentional about giving Hubs some love, it benefits the both of us! Win/win!
How to get started…
Well, like I said previously, you can use an app or a calendar. If you are using any type of contraception, it makes it pretty easy to know when your period will start. If you are not using contraception, you can still track your cycle naturally! You take your temperature at the same time every day and add it to the app or your calendar. Then, you can check the position of your cervix and the consistency of your cervical mucus to find your fertile days.
I polled some girlfriends and these are their fave apps for tracking—with birth control or natural family planning!
One last tip!
If you are planning a wedding soon, I have two pieces of advice for you! First, don’t plan your wedding date during your period, like I did! There are ways to remedy this, though! Talk to your doctor about this and he or she can help you.
Second, if you do plan on taking birth control, start it about three months before your wedding date! That way you’ll be covered and somewhat used to it by the honeymoon!
Alright friends, happy tracking!
About Our Guest Writer: Emily Kay
Emily is a Midwestern girl sweating in the South with her hubs of one year and cat, Felicia. She’s a musician (she plays 10 instruments!) and singer and loves making people laugh. When she’s not writing she’s planning meet-ups, volunteering, or playing board games with her hubs. She’s also a huge fan of air conditioning…
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