Have you ever been talking on your phone while rushing to get out of the house and finally, in exasperation, express to the person on the other line how frustrated you are that you cannot find your phone? Palm to face… Guilty. Do you compulsively check your messages when your phone is near? Guilty. Are you counting down the days until the latest and greatest phone comes out so you can have the fastest, cutting edge technology? If you answered “yes” to one or more of these questions (like me), it might be a sign that you need a break from your cell phone!
In this generation it’s hard—with all of the perks that smart phones offer, but there are cons to these devices too. Let’s not become dumb because of smart phones. Let’s not cheat ourselves and our relationships because of a little box emitting light. Your friends are not actually inside of your phone; they are probably right in front of you.
It always cracks me up (and makes me a little sad) when I see a whole family or group of friends out to eat and they are all staring at their phones the entire time. I greatly appreciate it when I’m with someone and they don’t seem to convey that their phone is more important than spending time with me. If you are serious about finishing a task, doing some self-reflection, journaling, or being 100% present with those around you at a meal or in conversation, then put the phone to the side. Your Facebook notification can wait. This is a simple way to show people you care about them and to invest in your relationships. It is getting rarer and more difficult to do this these days, but I think that makes it even more noticeable and appreciated.
Your friends are not actually inside of your phone; they are probably right in front of you.
Bonus challenge: go several hours or maybe even a day or two without your phone. Can you do it? Would you go crazy? With the nature of my work, I am away from technology most of the time, but when I am around it I can definitely feel myself teetering on the edge of being sucked in, almost like an addiction if I’m not careful. I know that if I was able to be around technology 24/7 I would have to be much more aware of my usage and take time to fully unplug every now and then.
It’s important for you to unplug for both you and for your friends and family. It might take a little grit and grace, but it will be worth it!
If you have any tips or tricks on how to overcome the smartphone surge, please comment below!
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