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Why It’s Important to Believe the Best About the Women Around You

Women comprise nearly fifty percent of the world’s population. With 7.6 billion people in the world, our total numbers are likely somewhere around 3.8 billion. We’re everywhere. We come in all ages, all ethnicities, and are found in every walk of life in every corner of the earth. We’re dynamic, complex, filled to the brim with mystery and passion. Some of the most remarkable individuals I know are women, and they encourage and drive me to grow in my own life as I watch them live theirs.

I didn’t always think this way. To be honest, during late high school and college, the number of guy friends I had far outweighed the girl friends I had. I used to frequently say that it was because guys “were easier to get along with” and that girls “caused too much drama,” and though I still had a handful of girl friends that I cherished, I was usually somewhat uncomfortable in a crowd of women.

I was pretty embarrassed to examine myself at some point and admit that one of the largest reasons I missed out on great female friendships was because of my own insecurities. I’m not proud to admit that being around beautiful, talented, smart women used to make me feel very inadequate. I’ve allowed comparison to rob me of so much over the years, and I feel confident that I’m not the only woman who has fallen under that weight over the years. (Check out Just Because She’s Pretty Doesn’t Mean You’re Not for proof!)

…being around beautiful, talented, smart women used to make me feel very inadequate.

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I’m thankful for that moment of clarity that allowed me to own up to my own shortcomings and face them. During my last semester of college, I really began to invest in the women around me and I was amazed to discover how much camaraderie and authenticity I found around me. I wasn’t the only one wrestling with self-image, purpose, and faith, and seeking answers. Some of our experiences were different, but many were the same. We were specialized support systems for one another because we understood one another. To this day, some of the most meaningful female friendships I hold come from that final semester of college. In fact, I just had the joy of being a bridesmaid for one of my dearest friends and it was such an honor to stand by her on her special day.

Here’s a fact: you can’t effectively be pro-women if you aren’t supportive of the women in your life. Gender equality is a hot topic right now, but there’s no use in using snappy buzzwords and hashtags about women being equal and valued if we aren’t treating the women in our lives as our equals and celebrating their value as unique individuals. As with any other overarching issue, our ability to enact change is quantified by the decisions we make in our every day lives. It’s easy to point fingers and identify the problem, but it requires much more effort on our parts to be the solution.

As women driven by both grit and grace, it’s our responsibility and privilege to seek out opportunities to support women around us. We have so many articles on our site that talk about the kind of women we want to be, so please take a minute to look over the list below.

Be sure to read some of our favorite articles below—all about becoming stronger, more graceful women:

Life & Culture
Men and Women Are Equal, but Not Identical
The Best Blogs to Follow For Every Area of Life
Why I Won’t Be Posting #metoo
5 Tips for Successful Independence

Relationships
Why I Share My Story of Healing After Domestic Abuse
You, Your Man, and His Baby Mama All Need Grit and Grace
9 Qualities That Make a Good Friend
Breaking Up and Becoming a Strong Woman
A Really Different Kind of Family

Work & Money
The Truth in the Gender Pay Gap
2 Simple Secrets to Long-Term Success
Do I Have to Act Like a Man to Be Successful at Work?
5 Tips on Dealing With Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

Motherhood
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Be a Great Mom

How to Be a #Girlmom
The Thief I Let In: a Day in the Life of a Working Mom
Dear SAHM: I See You and Want You to Know These 8 Things

Purpose
Does Finding Your Purpose Really Matter?
Why It’s So Important to Have a Mentor and to Be One Too
10 Behaviors Found in the Inspired Woman
For the Woman Who Wants to Be Strong
Anatomy of a Strong Woman

Health & Beauty
True Beauty is Found in a Woman’s Strength
3 Ways Positive Self-Talk Can Improve Your Life
Can I Be a Hippie in Heels? Balancing a Healthy Lifestyle
7 Brands That Are Helping Women Around the World

Faith
One Woman’s Journey, Why Rebekah Lyons Wrote “You Are Free”
Can God Use Messy People?
When You’re Desperate to Know the Reason for Your Pain
Chutes and Ladders—Are You Trying to Work Your Way to God?

…you can’t effectively be pro-women if you aren’t supportive of the women in your life.

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