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Have Yourself a Merry “Single” Christmas


Have you ever seen the movie While You Were Sleeping? In this romantic comedy Sandra Bullock struggles with being single and lonely. In one scene, she calls to place a ginormous order of take out. For whatever unexplainable reason the person on the other end of the conversation asks, “For how many?” Her reply, “for one.” She faces her reality with embarrassment and insecurity. It is funny, but I feel for her. At times I can relate to the loneliness that she must feel and the longing she has to find that special someone.

Most of the time, I am pretty okay with being single. There are a lot of perks to it after all. I don’t have to check in with anyone before I commit to anything; my schedule is my own. I don’t have to deal with the stress of juggling time with the parents and in-laws.

However, I can’t deny that the holidays can make it harder to embrace my singleness. Hearing “All I Want For Christmas Is You” and “Baby It’s Cold Outside” about three times a day doesn’t help much either. Don’t even get me started on the Hallmark movies.

…I can’t deny that the holidays can make it harder to embrace my singleness.

Maybe it’s others in your life that make it harder on you. You may be dreading your aunt or grandma who will ask if you have found anyone yet at your holiday gathering. How do we navigate this well within ourselves and respond well to others?

You could be like one friend of mine who when asked about her status, shows them a lovely gold ring she has on her middle finger. An easy answer … but not full of grace. You could impulsively go online and find a date to attend all of your holiday parties with you, but this may leave you feeling empty if you are someone who is desiring a meaningful relationship with someone else. And if you are, you probably have a lot of love to give. So go out and give it this season! There are plenty of people that need love, especially this time of year.

Take notice of what you do have in your life, not what you don’t have. Keep showing yourself the same grace you show all year long as a single person. There is nothing wrong with you. You are enough, just as you are. Embrace the holidays, get out your candles and shamelessly order that delicious dinner for one.

Here are a few more articles we love for our single friends 7 Things to Look for in a Man, To My Single Friends5 Reasons to Love Being Single7 Dating Tips for Successful Relationships



Tina is a single, tie-dye sporting, tenacious lover of adventure and the outdoors, torn between the mountains and the ocean.

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