College can feel like one big party, with drinks in hand and the peer pressure to fit in at every turn. What if God is calling us to stand apart, to say “no” to the temporary and “yes” to a life that honors Him?
College is oftentimes used as a time to discover oneself. With no parental supervision, college students are free to explore their likes and dislikes, to try new things that they were too scared to be caught doing. But with this freedom comes a new type of peer pressure—an overwhelming force that sometimes challenges everything that you believe in.
The College Pressure Cooker
I have personally felt this force and conformed to it for a couple of months. In my first semester away, I made all types of friends, but of these friends, there was only one I spent the majority of my time with. He was not very religious, and oftentimes I found myself not defending my view or faith because I didn’t want to lose our friendship. Eventually, it became rather controlling. Being tempted to skip class, sneak in alcohol on the weekends and even some school nights. I knew that wasn’t who I wanted to be, yet there was a large comfort in being accepted.
According to PubMedCentral, roughly 60-80% of college students have experienced a hookup, and 29% of full-time students between the ages of 18 and 25 report that they’ve participated in binge-drinking (NIAAA). It is incredibly common for people my age to participate in behaviors that, as Christians, we are taught to avoid.
But I get it—it can be incredibly isolating to stay in your dorm studying rather than drinking with friends, or attending church rather than partying. With all of this, college can seem like a pressure cooker for students trying to hold onto their Christian values.
A Test of Faith and Friendship
One Sunday, I had gone to my local Baptist church, and my friend that I had mentioned earlier asked to come along. I knew that he wouldn’t agree with whatever the sermon would be, but I thought, This is my faith, and I won’t push someone away who could potentially develop a new love for God or improve their lives.
Crazy enough, the first and last time he attended this service, the topic was about how God calls us to a traditional way of marriage between a man and a woman. When leaving the service, he told me in the car how he had felt uncomfortable, and how Jesus teaches us to love whoever we want. This was my biggest test to stand up for my faith. I didn’t want to lose a friend, especially one who was close to all of my other friends. Would that have been the end of my social life?
Then, verse Matthew 10:33 popped into my head: “But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.” I knew what he had said was against Jesus’ teachings, so right then and there, I made the shift from the life of drinking and skipping class this friend had inspired to focusing on my studies and God. Unfortunately, it meant losing a friend in the process.
The Bible reminds us over and over again in verses such as Romans 12:2 and 1 Corinthians 1:13 to not conform to the world, but to God. He does not allow us to be tempted by what we cannot bear. Whenever I feel left out by dedicating my time to school, work, and reading His word rather than hanging out at parties, I remind myself that His reward for me (which is eternal) is greater than anything the world has to offer—which is short-lived and often stirs up feelings of regret.
We remember that Jesus called us to repent and to believe in his word, not to fall into our temptation and stay there. At the end of the day, I want God to look at the few times I fell into temptation but completely reformed my heart rather than the many times I knew I was doing wrong and refused to change.
3 Ways to Stay True to Your Faith and Resist College Peer Pressure
1. Get involved with faith-based programs on campus.
What I have found to be very cool are the Christian programs that colleges and universities have to offer, such as Campus Ventures (as it is called on my campus) or The Newman Ministry. These groups often take field trips, host Bible studies, and are usually open to those who are just looking for friends. To maintain our faith, it is incredibly important to surround ourselves with people who are also strong in their faith, who can admonish us, and provide us fellowship and community.
2. Find activities that keep you focused on your faith. I personally love to draw and decorate, so I’d use my free time to make prayer cards for my neighbors or write down Bible verses to hang on my wall for motivation and reminders. Pinterest has been my best friend for creation and inspiration for these projects.
3. Prioritize prayer. Something that seems so simple yet is hard to make a habit of, is before fully waking up or going to sleep, devout time for prayer. In the morning, thank God for a safe sleep, and ask him for a productive day. When going to bed, thank him for the day, for the food you ate, and the new information you learned,
For those of you currently feeling the burden of guilt and the loneliness that can come from not finding the proper people to walk in your faith with, you are not alone. Sometimes, the best friends you can find—those who stay with you through all of your highs and lows—require a little bit of searching.
So, put yourself out there, make some real and Godly connections, and suddenly you will find that the hookup and drinking culture were never worth the disingenuous unhealthy connections. If you are feeling pressure, I encourage you to pray and ask God to lend you strength and reassurance in him. Remember, he would not allow you to be tempted by something he didn’t think you could overcome.
She might not have it all figured out, but she trusts the One who does.
As a full-time college student and a military brat, Ava Junker understands how quickly life can become complicated, making it feel as though there isn’t enough time to spare for God or to connect with Godly people. Over the years, she's had her fair share of hills and valleys when it came to building relationships and truly valuing her time with God. College presents many distractions from our faith, often introducing us to experiences and people who pull us away from His intentions for our lives.
Ava's mission is to inspire young women, reminding them that they are not alone in their walk of faith. In today’s world, there is extreme peer pressure to conform to an ungodly society that promotes hookup culture, excessive partying, and harboring hate and judgment in the heart. She wants to encourage others to stand firm in their faith and seek a deeper connection with God, even in the midst of these challenges.