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Single Again? How to Know When to Date After Death or Divorce with Ashby Duval – 056

Single again and confused about what’s next? Are you ready for another relationship or is it too soon? Since our co-host Julie Graham is in this place we invited fellow widow and one of our most popular writers at The Grit and Grace Project online magazine, Ashby Duval, to share her story. Ashby, while pregnant with their first child, faced her husband’s unexpected passing and speaks to us with vulnerability and hope. She honestly shares her journey as she navigated grief and the world of dating once again. Darlene and Julie ask her the questions you might be asking if you’re single after death or divorce. Realizing that each story is different (that there is no perfect formula) they explore a few ways toward healing and possibly even finding a healthy relationship after this kind of significant loss. “Widowhood is a club you never wanted to be a part of but it’s a part of your story,” Ashby says to Julie in this real and raw episode. Living this grit and grace life is very personal in this conversation, two ladies journeys that others may share. We hope it will be an encouragement to you and share it with a friend who needs to hear it as well.

Julie mentioned this episode of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey featuring Jenn Jett – you can listen here!

You can read more from our guest Ashby Duval at The Grit and Grace Project online magazine here!

Viewing in an app? Full show notes here.

Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love

I Never Wanted to Be a Pregnant Widow

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A pregnant widow: two words I never thought I would use to describe myself, especially considering I never wanted to get married or have children. However, I’m grateful Read more

What Your Grieving Friend Really Wants You to Know

What Your Grieving Friend Really Wants You to Know 2019When I first lost my mom, I had so many well-meaning friends, and relatives offer help, advice, and words of encouragement. The outpouring of support was amazing, yet a little overwhelming at the same time. Everyone meant well, and Read more

How to Move On From the Loss of a Dream in a Healthy Way

How to Move On From the Loss of a DreamI recently sat with a client who was devastated over the loss of a dream. This door was clearly closed in his life and there was no real chance of him ever achieving it. There is very little in life that Read more

My Dad’s Suicide and the Hole in My Heart

My Dad's Suicide and the Hole in My HeartI knew my father was having a difficult time in life. It was so very unlike this man whose smile warmed the hearts of perfect strangers to see that smile so infrequently. But at the age of 50, having Read more

Divorce Was Not in the Plan

Divorce Was Not In the PlanI have walked alongside two ladies I dearly love as they were suffering the heartbreak of divorce. Their disappointment, disbelief, and pain were palpable in every breath they breathed. I know for them this was never the intention when Read more

Things You Should Know When You Want to Date a Single Dad

Things You Should Know When You Want to Date a Single DadBeing single is hard enough. Dating is difficult, scary, and usually exhausting both mentally and physically. As women, we tend to overthink, over worry, and definitely overstress. So, you can imagine all that brain power being put into overdrive Read more

10 TV Couples That Make Us Believe in Love Again

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, which means you’re either loving love or loathing it. Maybe you’re recently single, always single, or unhappily coupled-up. Read more

We also recommend you check out this answer from our Ask Dr. Zoe column! Ask Dr. Zoe – Grieiving Divorce

Quote of the episode:

“I don’t think there’s an equation for dating after loss, but I think you’ll know when you’re ready.” Ashby Duval

Here are two episodes we think you’ll also enjoy related to this topic:

A Therapist’s Practical Advice for Blended Families with Dr. Zoe Shaw – 050
An Attorney Helps You Prepare for an Unexpected Loss – 012

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This Grit and Grace Life hosts, Darlene Brock and Julie Graham cross generational lines and draw from life experience to discuss all things life—from the boardroom to the bedroom, car-lines to college, being single, married or single again. Combining the two traits found in all women, grit and grace, they laugh, share insights and explore the road taken to find strength every day.

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