9 Things I Miss About Being Single

It seems I should start this off with a disclaimer: I’m a happily married woman. Now that I’ve told you that, I can tell you the rest. There are some things that I miss about my days being single. Most of those don’t have to do with guys or dating or anything, but just about who I was during that time and how I was able to live. Being in a healthy relationship certainly has many perks, but every once in a while, I pine for pure alone time, less responsibility, and a different lifestyle. Here are some of the things I miss about being single:

1. Only being responsible for myself. I mean that in the best way, but I’m serious. I almost can’t remember the last time that I got ready to go somewhere alone, packed only what I myself needed, and didn’t worry about what would be forgotten if I didn’t make my list and check it twice. Only worrying about yourself is just easiest.

2. Being on time. I won’t pretend that I was on time every time I went somewhere when I was single, but I was punctual about 50% more than I am now. Even just being married and adding a man into the mix made me chronically late. They think they don’t take that long to get ready so they don’t hop into the shower until four minutes before you need to leave. Come on!

3. Saturdays. Once upon a time, a Saturday was entirely my own. Sleep? Okay! Have unlimited and unhurried time to focus on refueling myself after a long week? Absolutely. Read a book or three? Yes, please! Shower whenever (or take a bubble bath!), leave the house (or don’t), eat what I want, and lay on the couch for a movie marathon? All of the yeses!

4. Having my own spending money. Don’t get me wrong—I have spending money, and I don’t need permission to use it. But inevitably, I don’t splurge on things as much as I used to, if only because I have a conscience. What I might’ve spent on a new dress usually gets spent on a new dress for my daughter. What I might have saved up for a new handbag gets whittled away by this son’s need for new shoes, that nice dinner out, or my husband’s birthday present.

5. Living in a small space. I know, a small space isn’t necessarily something that is just for single people. But somehow, only having a few rooms to keep clean, or furnish, or lose things in does actually appeal to me. However, my family of five can’t quite fit into a one-bedroom apartment, no matter how many toilets I don’t feel like cleaning.

6. More frequent girls’ nights. I know, I could have girls’ nights whenever I want—and I do! But it used to be that most nights of the week were girls’ nights. Grabbing dinner with a friend, getting with the girls to watch The Bachelor, or spending a night out on the town all dressed up, it could be any or every night. Now, it takes planning not just on the part of the girls, but their significant others, their kids, and/or their babysitters. It’s enough trouble to plan and prepare that it definitely doesn’t happen a few times a week.

7. Having my closet to myself. I took for granted the joy of having a closet to myself. My color-coded closet was a thing to behold, not to mention the only laundry I did was my own, so I was never behind. There was plenty of room to look through my clothes—and now the closet is so stuffed with suits and ties that I hardly have room to hang my nice dresses.

8. Eating whatever I want, whenever I want it. Sometimes, it can be frustrating to have to worry about what time someone else can have a meal, or to cater to their dietary needs. That’s one thing I miss about being single—if I wanted cereal for dinner, I ate it. My hubby, on the other hand, would be mortified if we sat down to a dinner of Frosted Mini-Wheats.

9. Having truly alone time. There’s something to be said for having some moments of relaxation, quiet time, and introversion that are completely your own. Having a SO (significant other) can sometimes cut into those times, even if it’s not always in a bad way. But I often find that there isn’t a place in our home where I’m truly alone, without interruption or at least knowledge of someone else close by. I haven’t had more than a few minutes of total by-myself time in years.

Like everything in life, there are pros and cons on either side of the fence. I know I risk sounding corny, but make sure you enjoy the moment of life you’re currently in. Don’t wish away your single life; soak it in!

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For more articles on living the single life, read 5 Tips for Living (and Loving) the Single Life, Traveling Solo, How and Why You Need to Just Go for It, To My Single Friends, and 5 Tips for Successful Independence
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