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9 Qualities That Make a Good Friend


I drove upstate to visit my best friend from college this past weekend because she just had her first baby. I couldn’t help but ponder the milestones we’ve shared: graduations, weddings, fur-babies, and now…a real baby! Our friendship has been nothing but a gift to me, and I smiled to myself—feeling so thankful.

It got me thinking about what makes a good friendship, so I wrote a list…

9 Qualities That Make a Good Friend:

1. Someone who helps carry your load, but doesn’t make you feel like a burden.
2. Someone who knows your worst, but only sees your best.
3. Someone who never makes you feel small, no matter how big they are.
4. Someone who doesn’t flaunt, especially when they know you’re hurting.
5. Someone who never makes you feel like you have not arrived, but still encourages you to grow.
6. Someone who rejoices in your accomplishments, as if they were their own.
7. Someone who doesn’t hold your mistakes over your head, but throws them deep into the sea of forgiveness.
8. Someone who gives you their very best, but does so without contingencies.
9. Someone who doesn’t make you feel like you have to perform, because they love you for being exactly who you are.

Someone who rejoices in your accomplishments, as if they were their own.

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This type of friend makes me feel comfortable in my skin, confident that I am loved, and more than anything—free.

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