Michelle Hurst

I am an educator and write online at www.michellewallishurst.com My favorite topics are faith, chronic illness, hope, relationships and middle age. I love to read, write, hike and nap. I drink in all the coffee, tea, wine and books I can get my hands on. I used to run long races, but now I mostly run errands. I struggle with faith, questions, complicated relationships, pain and details like where I put my keys. I often don’t know how I feel until I see it typed out. I know both how important and scary hope can be. I find myself questioning my small and ordinary life one minute and the next minute being absolutely overwhelmed by the beauty of it.

a mom kneels on the floor and measures her son's growth against a door frame since he's been experiencing growing pains

Growing Pains and Door Frames: A Measure of How Far We’ve Come

Whenever people asked me what was new in my life, it was easier to answer with what was new with my kids than myself. They were constantly changing: outgrowing their clothes, joining a soccer team, balancing equations, learning to read or playing the drums. We lived in the same home from the time I brought them bundled from the hospital until my son turned 11 and my daughter, 8. Every few months I’d take a Sharpie and make them stand flat on their feet and mark their height next to their initials. For 11 years, these black and red marks inched their way up the doorframe. Growing Pains My next-door neighbor and I shared a pediatrician. I was surprised one day when […]

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Is Quitting the End? Or Is it Starting Over?

Is Quitting the End? Or Is it Starting Over?

Recently, I went to the local running store and let them charge a ridiculous amount for a new pair of running shoes. I used to run, just like I used to do lots of things, but lately, I have been slow to get off the couch. I quickly found my brand and style of choice. The owner came up from the back and asked me about my selection. Runners are very particular about their shoes. I told her I needed something to absorb a lot of the impact. I tell her that I overpronate just a little. I tell her that my knees creak, but I never mention the hole in my head. I tell her I’m a distance runner, not a

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A Kid in Last Place Can Make a Mom Proud

A Kid in Last Place Can Make a Mom Proud

No one would ever mistake me for a dance mom.  I can barely tell the difference between a leotard and a swimsuit. My girl has been in dance for over four years and I’d still rather vacuum than help her put wiggle into tights – which is really saying a lot. Her debut was a Junior League Christmas shopping event where they had squeezed a stage in the corner and invited local dance studios to perform while women shopped for all things Santa and rhinestones. My daughter was barely out of pull ups. I realize this is awfully young for organized classes of any kind but after much pressure from anyone who watched her shake and twirl anywhere music was playing, I

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What the Value of a Penny Taught Me about My Self Worth

Am I Worth More than a Penny?

More often than not, if my change is only a few cents, I don’t wait around long enough for the cashier to hand me my pennies. If change falls out of my pocket or purse, I occasionally don’t bother to bend over to pick it up. Especially if it is just the copper variety. Pennies Cost More Than They’re Worth I know they add up, but I still don’t think pennies are usually worth my time or effort to keep up with. I’ve heard rumors for a while now that the US Mint is going to stop making them. That we will have to start rounding up or down when paying in cash. This does not sound like any loss to me.

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As My Friend List Shrinks, I Love How It Deepens

As My Friend List Shrinks, I Love How It Deepens

I’ve reached the age where my ideal Friday night involves pajamas, a couch, a book and being asleep by 10 o’clock. (ok, 9:30). The 20- to 30-year-old version of me had a very different idea of an ideal Friday night. At twenty, I’d hope for a date, a bar or a large group of friends. At thirty, I still hoped for an invite of some kind. A dinner party or excuse to wear anything besides yoga pants or school clothes. I wanted to be included and invited and to laugh the loudest. Don’t get me wrong; I still want to be invited, but I don’t always want to go. Be Choosey When it Comes to Your Friend List My life seemed to

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How to Ask Great Questions and Why It’s Life-Giving for All

Ever have 43 things on your to-do list, and instead of getting them done, you fill out one of those silly internet/Facebook questionnaires that ask great questions? You know, the kind where you check off books you’ve read, movies you’ve watched, states you have visited, favorite breakfast cereal, etc. I am a sucker for them. I mostly don’t even post them, I just read and answer them. I have taken almost every personality test out there. (Enneagram 7 here with a strong 8 wing, ENFJ). I read somewhere that people take personality tests, even the bad ones, in hopes of learning something new about ourselves. Figuring Out Who We Are We are all trying to figure out who we are… and maybe

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There’s Adventure In Everyday—Here’s How to Find It

A friend graciously let us stay in their mountain home for a week. My husband loves the mountains and has the facial hair and four wheel drive to prove it. I love adventure and so we headed north. The home, situated at the top of several winding, icy, muddy and unpaved roads  made it impossible for some of the other cars to make it up the precipice. Since ours had four-wheel drive, I often served as the shuttle, from their cars parked near the highway to the few miles up. Straight up.  I hardly minded, because every time I turned a corner (which was often), I found each view more majestic than the next. How could someone not be impressed and in awe?

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If You Have Cracks in Your Foundation, It’s Time to Avoid Avoidance

If You Have Cracks in Your Foundation, It’s Time to Avoid Avoidance

My husband has been sighing and pointing out these small cracks down the plaster of our living room for months. I know what they mean but I haven’t been too worried. Until the tiles on our kitchen floor started cracking audibly. Then a few weeks ago, a friend pointed out a crack down the front side of our house. Not the inside, but through the actual brick, and this one was not little but a huge gaping ridge. We called out a foundation company and got an estimate. Then, of course, we had to get a loan. A really big loan. Cracks in the foundation have also meant we had to call a plumber. We need to have some trees removed and

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Banana Muffins Can't Be Brownies and Other Life Truths

Banana Muffins Can’t Be Brownies and Other Life Truths

When my daughter was young she could sniff out a baking mix from a mile  away. Once I purchased a box of banana nut muffin mix at the store and my then four-year-old had it out of the bag and was waiting for me before I could even set my keys down. I sliced up a few bananas while she put paper liners in the muffin pan. She insisted on adding sprinkles, and I said, “Why not?” We whisked and poured and put them in the oven. Banana Muffins Can’t Be Brownies As soon as I closed the oven door, my daughter started asking if her brownies were ready yet. Her slightly older brother piped up from doing his homework, never missing

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Does Faith Count When It Doesn’t Feel Big Enough?

Does Faith Count When It Doesn’t Feel Big Enough?

My faith used to feel so much bigger. These days, it can feel like an afterthought. A prayer shot off in traffic or as I am already falling asleep. I struggle through any kind of devotional book. I make it to church most weekends but pray with my eyes open and occasionally with my heart closed. I miss the small narrow faith that felt so consuming of my youth. I miss the simple Sunday school lessons, youth group concerts and innocent prayers. In college, faith filled living room couches and strummed guitars. I hung out in coffee shops and college ministries. I made all the usual college mistakes but I still managed to squeeze in a quiet time or go to a

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Are You Holding On to What You've Outgrown?

Are You Holding On to What You’ve Outgrown?

My teenage daughter has a birthday coming up. While looking through old photographs, I came across one with a big gap-toothed grin that almost wrecked me. There is something about gaps in a kid’s smile that tugs at my heart.  A gap that will be filled with a tooth slightly too big for their five-year-old face. Adult teeth look so funny on a little kid and it takes years to grow into them. I remember snooping through my parent’s drawers as a kid and finding a few baby teeth. These old teeth both fascinated and disgusted me. One person I know took it one step further and saved her baby’s umbilical cord.  Cords are smelly and scabby and I couldn’t wait for

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The 5% Rule—A Winning Strategy

The 5% Rule—A Winning Strategy

(Listen to the audio version of this article here.) I love having friends that shine at skills I do not possess. Friends who can bake, spell, brew a perfect cup of coffee, organize a closet and know how to set up a website come in handy. I have a few friends who are professional photographers. They have tried to teach me some tricks, but I generally leave the shutter speed and aperture to them. I have pretty cute kids, and they keep my house filled with studio-quality prints, usually for the cost of dinner or a glass of wine. I’m completely spoiled. When My Friend Asked Me For Help… When one of these talented photographer friends asks me for help with a shoot,

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It Feels Like My Teen Is Rejecting Me, But I Know It’s Something Else

It Feels Like My Teen Is Rejecting Me, But I Know It’s Something Else

When my daughter hit puberty she moved straight into her room. It seemed dramatic and overnight, not a gradual release. One day I can’t get a minute alone and the next I hardly know she lives here—except for all the half-filled cups she leaves all over the house. One day she drones on and on about horses, YouTubers, recess, and pizza in the cafeteria, and the next she answers with as few syllables as possible. I do my best to lure her out from her room with the promise of her favorite foods or movies, but mostly she retreats. Some days I hear music, and other days I hear power tools from behind her closed door. She rearranges. She paints her nails.

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I'm Different—Just Like Everybody Else

I’m Different—Just Like Everybody Else

A friend recently sent me slightly condescending meme about tattoos. She was trying to be funny, but I reminded her that I have over half a dozen (although none in such obvious places as the picture). I thought about it while I washed my hair—and about how my hair was also once purple. I wondered what kind of memes could be found about people with bold hair choices or pierced noses. Other than the first two tattoos, I did none of these things in my youth. All were in my 30s. Currently, my hair is a plain brown color, styled in a sensible cut. My tattoos are all easily hidden by most clothing and only my ears are pierced. As this decade

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