A few months ago my husband was once again in the yard being bitten by Florida’s “no see ‘ums” our state’s vicious sand fleas. That’s because my Christmas lights had thrown the breaker for the fourth year in a row and he was trying to help me figure out the problem.
He created a line item in our budget for Christmas decorations and willingly assists me where he can. Not because he values all the decorations and the time taken to get them from the garage to their proper place. Nor does he think the annual circuit kicking scampering for an answer is worth the effort. It’s because what matters to me matters to him.
Every time I go to the grocery store I leave with a minimum of four cooler bags filled with ice blocks. That is because even though it’s only 65 degrees outside and the grocery is a 15-minute drive, my husband believes that everything in the store that is cold should remain at its minimum temperature until placed in the refrigerator.
Do I think this may be overkill? Certainly. (When he reads this he will once again explain why this really does matter.) But I fill those bags in the parking lot prior to putting my car into reverse and heading home. That’s because what matters to him matters to me.
Love is not always about the act (although that is important). It is always about the attitude. Anything that matters to someone you love that isn’t illegal, unethical, or immoral should matter to you.
Great relationships are built upon caring about what the other person cares about. To bring success to any human arena: coworkers, family members, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse and even friends, this is a requirement from both sides of the equation.
So as we work to build important relationships, think about this – offer to those you love the act of making sure they know that what matters to them is important to you. Demonstrating the true nature of a loving heart will always mean this…. If it matters to them, it most certainly should matter to you.