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Welcome to HerStory.

“HerStory of a Grit and Grace Life” is a place to tell our stories, revealing the challenges we have faced, the hurts we have walked through, and the healing we have found. We are not here to engage in the “his-story” debate. Instead, we’re creating a safe space where women can speak with vulnerability, honesty, and transparency about their struggles. A place where they found their strength.

We are women helping other women believe they can overcome because we have. We are not afraid of the messy realities of life. We know that it is the tragedies, frustrations, and misfortunes that uncover the beauty of our strength, where the richness of our faith is forged.

So join us as we offer a glimpse into our stories, a place where strength will be found and may they be a source of encouragement as you embrace your own in this Grit and Grace Life.

I Never Thought I’d Find Purpose in My Pain

I was still reeling from the shock and pain of breaking up with my boyfriend of 5+ years just minutes before. He was my

i gave up being a party girl to build a better life

My first memories were created within the walls of the sweetest little preschool, St. Stephen’s. I can’t recall entire days; just bits and pieces


Our children and grandchildren met each other for the first time over pizza on a Friday evening. A bonfire was built later that night.


We are here to tell our stories, even the hard ones. HerStory documents the stories of heartbreak and debilitating challenges that rattle the life

When God’s No Became My Best Yes

I sat on the edge of the exam table, a sheet draped over my lap, exam gown tied in the back. I was waiting

The field was a place of childhood imagination, a land filled with underground forts, wood crate castles, and a path that wandered over dirt

This Is Why Choosing Life Was Hard

On June 20th, the most heartbreaking thing happened in my state. Rhode Island state senator, Gina Raimondo, passed an “abortion protection bill.” She stated,

This Is a Window Into My Widowhood

I remember getting the call. “Paul has had an accident and it’s not good. We need to get over there.” It was his dad

behind my pretty life my struggle with alcohol

I slowly lifted my index finger parallel to my eyelash and blinked. My auburn lashes were clean. No leftover mascara remained. That meant I

My Husband Fought for His Nation, but Lost a Battle at Home

My family and I love going to Washington D.C. I’ve gone countless times since I was a kid, especially because my dad did so

this is what i would say to the man who raped me

The cutting cold of the night numbed my cheek as I lay against a pillow of snow. My head was heavy—I could not lift

Episode 101 Julie Graham's untold story

In this gripping and emotional podcast, Grit and Grace Life's own Julie Bender (previously Julie Graham), brand ambassador and podcast co-host, talks about the

I Lost My Mom and Found My True Strength

I’ve heard it said that life is the sum of all the choices you make. I get this, but what about the things we

My Dad's Suicide and the Hole in My Heart NEW

I knew my father was having a difficult time in life. It was so very unlike this man, whose smile warmed the hearts of

This Is What I Learned About Life After My Rape and Pregnancy

In 2009, I was ending a relationship that had me completely mesmerized! I was involved with this man for the previous five years in

I Never Wanted to Be a Pregnant Widow 2

This is part one of a three-part series following Ashby's story.  A pregnant widow: two words I never thought I would use to describe myself,

How I Made Beauty From Ashes and Burnt Toast

I have been many things in my 40 years. I’ve tried on many different hats. I have been a fashion-forward retail worker in New York

for shirley, the wonderful neighbor who made everyone feel special

The air on the porch was heavy and the cicadas chanted their morning prayers. I peered past the redwood fence separating our yard from

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