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3 Golden Rules for a Meaningful Christmas

3 Golden Rules for a Meaningful Christmas

I work with teenage girls who will be given a lot this season, and I feel challenged to help them keep their attitudes (and mine) in check. What do I want to learn and teach them?

1. Be grateful.

This is something we absolutely cannot lose sight of with so much darkness and selfishness around us.

I want them to see what they have, not what they don’t have. There is always, always, always something to be grateful for. If you did not receive any material things this season, would you be unhappy? If the answer is yes, something is wrong.

We must be content with where we are right now, today, in our current circumstances. Otherwise I don’t think we will ever truly be content when we receive x, y, or z … or achieve x, y, and z.

I remind the girls I work with that we must show gratitude when others give to us—whether the gift is big or small, new or handmade. I would never want them to deny someone the joy of giving a gift. Maybe it’s a poorly knitted hat they see no use for … I hope they will say thank you sincerely anyway.

If you don’t want it or don’t like it, don’t be unhappy. Look at it as an opportunity to care for someone else by practicing gratitude.

2. Give.

One of the greatest joys of the Christmas season is to give to others.

This doesn’t mean that we have to buy things in order to do so … many of us cannot afford that route. But we can be creative; we can re-gift. Remember that gift you received that you didn’t need, like, or want? You can re-gift it to someone who will enjoy it. Plus it’s one less thing you have to keep track of or organize.

I want to be a professional re-gifter. I find great joy in thinking of who in my life would be able to use items that I don’t need anymore. And of course there are many great charities and thrift stores in most communities that can always use donations.

3. Be intentional.

Look for ways to reach out to others. The holidays can be hard for many who have lost loved ones or who just get overwhelmed with the stress of hosting, finding gifts, etc. There are many small things you can do to help someone out.  Write a note, bake something, cook a meal, offer to help them with a house project, or just take them to lunch or coffee for a break.

Look broader within your community as well. Is there a home for kids or organization for homeless people that could use help or donations? Is there a reindeer 5k you could run to support a good cause? I challenge you to find at least one way to give back this season!

If we all practice these three golden rules, Christmas will be warmer, brighter, and much more merry!

For more articles on meaningful gift-giving read 10 Inexpensive Christmas Gifts That Others Are Sure to Love!How Small Gifts Can Be More Meaningful at Christmasand Our Secret Santa



Tina is a single, tie-dye sporting, tenacious lover of adventure and the outdoors, torn between the mountains and the ocean.

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