Self Talk

The sun rose a little too early, your coffee was cold by the time you got a chance to drink it, your children just won’t cooperate, you went to bed angry… Hundreds of little things have the potential to ruin your morning if you have not trained yourself to look at the positives in your life instead of the negatives. Understanding the Negatives It’s no surprise that it’s easier to wallow in the negatives than it is to notice the positives of life. While research shows that there is a beneficial reason we tend to focus on the negatives instead of the positives, it’s important not to become overwhelmed by the bad and lose sight of the good. Some days, however, can

Early in our relationship, Bill, who had no experience with the female psyche, having had three brothers and no sisters, discovered that I felt insecure about what I looked like. Or, as one of our sons said when he heard this story, “Dad found out you were a girl.” I could tell this fact about me disturbed him. He mulled it over for a few minutes and offered a solution: “Kitti,” he said, his earnest blue eyes ablaze with confidence, “I felt that way once when I was in high school. It was in the locker room after football practice. So I looked at myself in the mirror and said to myself, ‘Murray, you’re not the best-looking guy on earth, but you’re