Purpose

pur·pose

/ˈpərpəs/

This is the journey to define your gifts and talents to fulfill your unique calling—embracing who you are to help determine the roles only you can fill. It is the catalyst for doing your best, imperfectly so, each day in every area of life.”

Here's Why You Should Question the Stories You Tell Yourself

Here’s Why You Should Question the Stories You Tell Yourself

“The most powerful stories may be the ones we tell ourselves.” —Brené Brown¹ It wasn’t the loaves of homemade bread she’d bake for our family, the way she’d serve me Ovaltine in bed before school, nor the daily schlepping to swim practices and other after-school activities. These acts of devotion certainly made her a fantastic mother, but what earned her the title of “The World’s Greatest Mom” was largely due to the stories she told. With creativity and ease, her words flowed into dashing tales around similar themes. There was always a high-stakes rescue coupled with unassuming heroes who overcame weaknesses, flaws, and fears. Even though the settings, outlying characters, and storylines varied each time, the hero protagonists did not — they […]

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Giving Tuesday: This Is the Day!

  Today’s the day to make triple the difference in women’s lives! Our website, podcasts, videos, social media posts, and audio articles all take resources to offer that hope, and as a 501c3 nonprofit, we can only do that with partners like you! It is our mission to offer women support as they handle the challenges common to all of us. We are sharing our lives and experiences to help them in theirs. On Giving Tuesday every donation will be matched 200%    Grit and Grace Life is a community of women—from all ages and stages—sharing our own real-life stories and the wisdom we’ve gained from them to provide hope, encouragement, and tangible solutions for every woman in every situation and

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200% Giving Tuesday Match with Grit and Grace Life

Grit and Grace Life: offering insights, advice, hope, and encouragement from women who have been there. Our website, podcasts, videos, social media posts, and audio articles all take resources to offer that hope, and we can only do that with partners like you! Mark your calendar for November 29th to make triple the difference in women’s lives. It’s our goal to reach into women’s lives. To help them traverse the very same joys and challenges we have faced: —motherhood triumphs and trials —ups and downs in our faith —beauty and heartache in our relationships —and a desire to understand our true purpose as we walk this earth We do this as a community of women—from all ages and stages—sharing our own real-life

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You Need to Read This If Your Life Hasn’t Gone as Planned

If Your Life Hasn’t Gone as Planned, Read This!

October is my birthday month, and when the year I turned 39, I discovered it was OK to start over in my professional career. For the previous five years, I had been a stay-at-home mom. I decided to leave the corporate world when my fourth child was born, and it was one of the best decisions of my life. I became comfortable in the new routine I had established, and I loved being able to have that quality time with my two little ones before they went off to school. My two oldest were already in school, and I felt like I had missed so much of their younger years. I wanted the opportunity to just be a mom, even if it

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It Took Losing Everything to Find Me

It Took Losing Everything to Find Me

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. -E.E. Cummings At 30, I was happily married, had a great career, many friends, and lots of money. During that time, I also became deeply depressed, was put on medication for anxiety and entered what would be a very long relationship with psychotherapy. It was a real struggle for me to understand why I wasn’t happy when I had everything that I thought was important in life. Was I selfish? Were my expectations too high? I honestly couldn’t understand what was missing and how to fill this huge void that gnawed at me endlessly. When I look back at my life, more than 20 years later, I realize that I

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4 Steps to Find Purpose After Retirement

4 Steps to Find Purpose after Retirement

When my adult children were in town for their dad’s Celebration of Life service, they planned my future. Behind my back. They encouraged me to take an early retirement and get back into speaking and writing. And they presented three options that would allow me to do so. The thing is, a significant part of my purpose died along with my husband. We were doing some meaningful things together. And now it seemed too late. Sometimes our life’s purpose is etched into our work. Our places of employment provide us with social interaction, and our jobs make a difference in the lives of the people we serve—our students, our clients, our patients, our passengers. My niece, Heidi, spoke at a recent TEDx event

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Are You Missing the Magic in Your Everyday?

Are You Missing the Magic in Your Everyday?

My husband, Charlie, and I celebrated our 35th anniversary this month with a weeklong trip to our favorite place in Wyoming. Typically we only visit in the summer for epic hiking in the national parks or fly-fishing on legendary rivers. I like to think I am always fully present to the spectacular scenery there but sometimes, I forget to be awed. I know the extraordinary becomes ordinary if you forget to truly see. The Magic Of The Morning Whether I am in Wyoming or at home in North Carolina, the best part of my day happens in the morning. I always try to wake early both to write and to catch the early light show. This is when the sun rises after

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For Everything There is a Season: Reflections on Turning 40

For Everything There Is a Season: Reflections on Turning 40

(Listen to the audio version of this article here.) Almost to the day of me turning 40, I began receiving emails from my dermatologist with deals for $10 shots of Botox. Along with some other strange things like: silver hair appearing around my temples, thinning skin on my forearms, random jutting veins like tributaries on an old map on skin only visible when I wear shorts (which is rarely), under eyes like crinkle paper, new ridges etching into my forehead (what my daughter calls: “squigglies”), groaning when I bend down to pick something up, creaking when I wake up the morning after a workout, calling college students “kids,” and needing that overhead light to do the dishes… I also started recognizing a

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Why You Should Tell the Story of the Mountain You Climbed

Why You Should Tell the Story of the Mountain You Climbed

(Listen to the audio version of this article here.) The path ended near an icy-blue lake which, according to our GPS, stood at 13,850 feet above sea level. If we had known, we would have taken on the neighboring trail. My husband and I had always wanted to climb one of Colorado’s Fourteeners—summits that reach above 14,000 feet. But we waited too long. He didn’t think he had it in him because cancer was revving up its engines. Turns out, the trek we chose that day was across a deep gorge from one of the trails leading up to 14,000 feet. In our ascent, we caught glimpses of hikers on that path and realized—too late—that we could have done it. We could

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True Purpose Is Found in How We Care for Others

I watch as a woman I dearly treasure is overtaken by the stronghold of dementia, and I resign to the fact that none of us has control or the ability to change this course. Repeated stories and angry outbursts, followed by confusion—this has become the norm for this strong, kind, and loving lady. While these are not the actions of the aunt who has impacted my life so significantly, it’s where she finds herself in the twilight of her life. But my heart doesn’t stay where she is today. Instead, it leads me to the actions throughout her life. The deep and constant investment she made in mine. These will always be part of my treasured memories, keeping residence in my heart.

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What Does Optimism Bring to a Woman's Life? - 184

What Does Optimism Bring to a Woman’s Life? – 184

Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | Android | Email | TuneIn | RSS | MoreWe often hear about “the power of positivity,” and while it may sound like we’re looking at the world through rose-colored glasses, we believe that an attitude of optimism can actually serve us well. Darlene Brock and Julie Bender sit down to chat about a woman’s inherent optimistic spirit, and how it leads us to push beyond what we thought was possible. They discuss what healthy optimism looks like in each area of our lives, through motherhood, relationships, faith and our purpose; when to pair it with realism; and how it can benefit those around us.  Even now as the world looks a little murky,

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Ask Dr. Zoe – I Need a Change, How Can I Find Myself Again?

‘Jill’ Asked: I have recently quit a job that I was very good at but I was working 90+ hours per week and living away from my husband. I have always wanted to start a business, so I figured now is the time. I am 53 years old and time is ticking. But, I don’t know where to begin to figure out what business I should start. After working so many hours, I barely know myself and feel a bit lost. How can I find myself again and hopefully a new path? Thank you! Jill Dr. Zoe Answered: You are in good company. You and so many other women are struggling to find themselves in this season of life. And this is

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Do You Ever Feel Like You're Not Enough?

Do You Ever Feel Like You’re Not Enough? with Jodi Shultz 172

Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | Android | Email | TuneIn | RSS | MoreWomen have accomplished some pretty incredible things throughout history. It was women that patented windshield wipers, disposable diapers, non-reflective glass and a host of other products that benefit us to this day. And that’s just a glimpse into the life changing achievements we’ve made. Yet, it’s not uncommon for us to feel as though we’re not enough. We question our value when we see other women who are prettier, doing it better, or seem to be winning at life.  Grit and Grace Life writer Jodi Shultz joins Darlene Brock and Julie Bender to discuss this epidemic. Jodi recalls a time in her life when she

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You’ll Find More Freedom When You Learn to Say No

When I was first widowed, I adopted the attitude of saying “yes” to as many opportunities as possible. “I’d love to travel with you to Israel.” “Of course, I’ll join you and the kids in Disney World.” And not only yes to new adventures, but also yes to interruptions, volunteer respite care, and visiting the dying. Saying yes can be challenging after a major setback that drives us to our couches with stacks of books and pots of tea. When we’ve lost something of significant value—our health, rewarding work, a loved one—we want the comfort of the familiar. But getting off the couch and speaking yes means we trust God with the unexpected events we wouldn’t have written into our stories. It

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I'm ditching perfection because my best is enough

I’m Ditching Perfection Because My Best Is Enough

Once again, I grabbed a shopping cart to complete what seems to be my four-times-a-week run to Walmart. As I was rolling down the aisle, I passed one of those cardboard boxes that sits strategically in your path. You know—those big old things that you have to navigate your shopping cart around. The reason it’s placed there is so you will go slowly, pause, and purchase something that wasn’t on your list and that you didn’t know you needed until that very moment. This particular brightly-painted bit of corrugation had wall art in it, the kind that’s there to inspire us. I’m pretty sure the piece that caught my attention was targeted at women. It stated this: “You don’t have to be

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It's Twins

Being #filterless with Whatever Life Throws Your Way

  About this photo: “When I was (very) pregnant with twins, I decided to skip the staged pregnancy photo shoot with long flowing gowns and all that. It felt so fake at the time. My experience being pregnant with twins was not something I wanted to cover up with a dress I only wore for pictures. Carrying these babies was so gritty that I thought it would be funny to post these pics that my husband took of our own joke photo shoot.” —Caroline Beidler, writer for Grit and Grace Life   Being #filterless With Whatever Life Throws Your Way It’s no secret that life is going to throw us curveballs. Some will be great; others won’t be so pretty. No matter

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are your compromises hindering your freedom and integrity

Are Your Compromises Hindering Your Freedom and Integrity?

At 36, Elizabeth was proud of her accomplishments. A thriving career, a loving marriage, a bright energetic daughter, and an entourage of friends that loved and supported her. Yet, when you talked with her or spent any time around her, you detected a brokenness that was difficult to explain. There was the person she wanted you to see, an accomplished professional with a full life, and a distorted reflection that was her true self. People say you know a person by the company they keep. I think you know the person by the compromises they make. People are what they do in the secret spaces of their hearts. The truth of their lives surfaces when the pretense that keeps their image intact

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